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Comparison vs. Simplicity

Welcome friends.

This is day 27 of Soulful Simplicity, a 31-day series through the month of October. The series can be found here, and I hope you find it enriching and encouraging. If you have any questions or would otherwise like to connect, feel free to send me a note: lightandloveliness [at] gmail [dot] com.


It only takes a few minutes on social media before you feel a pang.


You see women who are fit, beautiful, and bold. You see their flawless homes and their cherub children, their incredible vacations, and you immediately feel insecure, inadequate, and unable to keep hold of contentment for yourself. You may begin feeling sorry for yourself, or you might find something about those to whom you are comparing and become hyper-critical of them. It always swings one way or the other.

Comparison brings about discontentment, opens the door negativity, and makes the one who is comparing overvalue or undervalue themselves in the form of either pride or insecurity.

Simplicity is a quiet, but effective war against comparison. It is a philosophy that sits in direct opposition to evaluating ourselves, our homes, and our bodies against an ever-changing standard of what is desirable. It is a shortcut to contentment because it slices through the incoming messages that we are not or cannot be enough.

With simplicity, I discern what the highest priorities are in my life and I take action to protect them. I have my purpose in mind, and my life intentionally well-ordered, and I am no longer trying to hit the moving target of competition because my target is defined by me and is not dependent on what anyone else has or does.

Simplicity is a short-cut to contentment because if I am a champion of simplicity, I grow to value my core priorities higher than anything else. Simplicity allows me rest from striving to meet outside standards and instead invest my energy into establishing a life that is reflective of what is desirable and lovely…to me.

Simplicity liberates me from the ties of insecurity because comparison is rooted more in the appearance of wellness, adequacy, and beauty than the reality of them.

Simplicity allows me to methodically pursue wholeness and become truly well, recognize my  beauty, and see that when I am free from the standards that would be applied from a place of comparison, that my simple life is not only adequate, but desirable and full of value if I have eyes to see it.

Simplicity is a bold choice to shut out influences that sow discontent in my life. By choosing my influences wisely, I can keep comparison from taking my joy, confidence, and contentment.

“I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am. I know how to get along with humble means, and I also know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need.” Philippians 4:11b-12


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2 Comments Comparison vs. Simplicity

  1. Tammy Mashburn

    This, “Simplicity is a bold choice to shut out influences that sow discontent in my life. By choosing my influences wisely, I can keep comparison from taking my joy, confidence, and contentment.”
    Love it!


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